I kept seeing this title on Netflix for weeks now, but I felt I don’t have the heart to watch it after reading the short summary. I’ve watched The Hunting Ground and it left me so frustrated with the world. For that reason, I’ve put off watching this film. I knew I would just be as angry. I was right.
It was painful to watch, and I basically cried during the entire documentary, just like I did when I saw The Hunting Ground. Mostly tears of frustration (I might just use this word a lot because, damn that’s exactly how I feel).
Props to Cohen & Shenk for showing the corrupt politics through the Sheriff and the Mayor of Maryville. You gotta love how that Sheriff, when asked “but in this case the crimes were committed by boys?” he answers “Were they?” AND LAUGHS.
I mean. It took every ounce of my being not to smash my laptop screen.
You also gotta enjoy that small tantrum of the Mayor crying “Why didn’t the media talk about the town’s man-made lake? I mean, that is amazing, ain’t it?” Like saying, who gives a shit about a sexually assaulted 14-year-old who was left out to freeze in the cold?
To think those people are in positions of power. Not surprising, after all, I’m a bit of a cynic and I think majority of the people in power are self-interested, and believe nothing bad will ever happen to them, after all they call the shots. That’s why society, especially the one the Colemans lived in, is fucked up. So fucked up that the damn sheriff would hand the phone back-the fucking evidence!-to the guy to *turn it off* BUT JFC YOU GOTTA BE STUPID NOT TO THINK HE’S GONNA GET RID OF EVERYTHING THERE. We all got phones. We know how long it takes to *turn it off* compared to FINDING SOMETHING AND DELETING IT.
End rant. Back to the documentary.
The documentary features two devastating stories of two minors who experienced sexual assault: Audrie Potts from California, and Daisy Coleman from Missouri. Both were sexually assaulted when they were incapacitated. It also portrays the effect of social media on sexual assault cases, and how bullying can lead to suicide.
It shows two terrible stories, two main victims, but it seeks to reach out tons of survivors to let them know that they are not alone. Unfortunately, Audrie didn’t get the help she needed–not before the rape, and especially not after. She was “reassured” that the story would blow over in a week. But she didn’t make it though the week.
Stories like these should not “just blow over” though. It has to be talked about, and victims need to survive.
These are dreadful stories, but they are real. Real enough that it could happen to anyone. Although the girls were intoxicated at the times of their rape, in other cases, you could be sober and still have it happen to you. And either scenario, society will find a way to blame you.
Everyone warns girls about not drinking too much so they won’t get taken advantage of. HOW ABOUT TEACHING BOYS NOT TO RAPE GIRLS. Not to take advantage of someone incapable of consent. Not to take advantage of someone who is not sober. Not to take advantage of someone. Period.
The frustrating thing about the documentary is that the boys pretty much got a slap on the wrist, while the victim and their families have to live with the scars. It’s not fair, and I guess that is why too many victims choose to stay silent.
Devastating documentary, but Daisy’s final remarks are hopeful. I admire her strength, as well as her brother’s and her mother’s, for putting up with all they went through and still having a positive attitude. I bet her brother wanted to smash those guys to the ground, but he was strong enough to forego violence. Sure, he threatened that kid who called his sister a liar, but what kind of sibling would let that go? I think he’s perfectly capable of cutting some heads open, but he didn’t. That’s strength. And I think they take that after their mother.
Daisy’s thoughts on what her experience taught her, juxtaposed with what John R and John B’s, demonstrate how far she has gone (while the Audrie’s assaulters remain immature).
Audrie & Daisy is another 90-minute Netflix documentary to show the extent of corruption and injustice in society, through the perspective of two sexual assault cases of minors. It shows the ugly side of social media. It will infuriate you; it will hurt you. That’s what makes it powerful.